I seldom comment on another blogger’s post, even though I’m often itching to do so.
I often ask myself why (because no one else is wondering) I do (or not do) it.
Sometimes, I see a personal (or whatever) post and want to comment on it. But before I even get the chance to formulate a decent comment, thoughts like the following flood my mind immediately:
- you might offend them!!
- your opinion is unsolicited so it’s better for you to shut up
- you’re not making them feel better (i.e. when the post is about one’s problems)
- your opinion is irrelevant. You’re irrelevant
- the least I can do is offer them sup-
- no! You might make them feel worse about themselves!
- …. (I don’t have the right words to say)
- They might take my words the wrong way
- No. Just no. Shut up, self.
I do reply on comments (sometimes), because I do have something to say on the matter. Or sometimes it’s just out of courtesy.
There are also times when it’s the other blogger I don’t want to comment on my posts. It’s not because I don’t want to hear what they have to say about the post at hand. I do love hearing from people, actually.
It’s the fact that I have to respond to those comments. Because well, I really can’t find the right words to say.
I don’t know what to say about what they have to say.
But I always feel like I have to reply to every single comment I receive on my posts, even if it’s just a smiley.
But I feel awkward, the same way I feel awkward (and anxious) when I give a comment on a blogger’s blog post.
So I end up just liking their post.
For a day now I’ve been annoyed at myself for not being able to give support to a fellow blogger who seemed to be having a rough time (because what if I don’t help them at all?).
So to you, fellow blogger:
Stay strong. You’ll get through this. Just hang on.
No, that’s not all I want to tell you. There are things. But I don’t know how to tell you these things that I want you to hear, and understand. So I’m sorry for keeping quiet instead of reaching out to you.
All I can do is hope for whatever you’re hoping for.